FWB
No it's not a new TV network with some sort of amphibian as a mascot. It's Friends With Benefits. This hot guy from the dating site that I swore I was leaving for good has contacted me asking if I would be interested in an FWB arrangement. He just got out of a long-term relationship and is horny but is not ready for another relationship.
Now most people would be offended by this, however, I'm not one of those people. I'm trying to decide if I can handle this type of arrangement. I mean after all, I have needs too, needs that haven't been met in a very long time. A very, very long time. Anyway, enough of that.
The only thing that's holding me back is that I don't want to get hurt, in other words I don't want to get attached. Other than that, I could really go for this. I've been weighing the pros and cons.
Any suggestions?
posted by Leave It To Cleavage at 1:23 PM
13 Comments:
Yeah, I have one - don't do it. First of all I know you, you're gonna' get hurt especially because you're in a vulnerable state right now. If it were any other time in your life where you were healed from any past relationships, I'd say it would be okay. Secondly, it's crap. At this point in your life, why would you want to get involved in something like that? Forget the whole "my needs aren't being met", there are other ways to meet your needs without getting involved with some cheesy guy.
2:55 PM
Ty BB and Jenn for your opinion, I do appreciate it! Jenn thanks for stopping by and I hope to see you again!
5:03 PM
I've read your blog on occasion.
Trust your friends, dont get involved in anything like this. Ever. Especially if either are just out of a long term relationship.
Best of luck.
5:53 PM
LMAO thanks Fab, you tard, lol.
7:15 PM
If I knew what FWB stood for, I'd offer a suggestion. Be careful, there are alot of nuts out there. Dating someone you met online is alot like picking up a hitch-hiker. They may look fine, but.... plus you don't know where they've been (if you know what I mean). Just be careful.
11:20 AM
And did I ever mention you have beautiful eyes????
11:21 AM
First I think you need to be friends before you can be FWB. See if you even want to be his friend. You have to buy the lottery ticket in order to win.
12:16 PM
Okay I know this isn't my blog but I have to say a few things...Dick she mentions at the beginning of the post that FWB means "friends with benefits", ie fuck buddies. Miki, trust me, I know Leave on a personal level, this is not something she can handle especially when she's trying to get over a relationship. Furthermore, as I told Leave, it's disgusting to have a complete stranger approach you and ask you for this. Maybe if they were friends it wouldn't be such a strange request but trust me when I tell you there are really screwy characters on this dating site she speaks of. Lastly, for someone to ask one to do this, they are simply stating that she's only good for the screwing part and not someone worthy to be in a relationship with. This, to me, is the absolute insult.
3:04 PM
Leave, you're worth more than that. Tell him to take a hike. You're too beautiful to be used like that.
3:13 PM
Thank you all for your input, I really appreciate it! Those of you that said I shouldn't do it, you're right and after careful thought, I decided that I'm worth more than that. I've been spending this last week feeling like I'm only good enough to be used and here I am almost letting it happen again.
BB, you're right, and since you know me so well you really hit on some key points that drove the message home and I appreciate it. Dick-thank you for the compliment, you do realize that I don't look like a cat right?
4:36 PM
Anything for the Great Gozanga Goddess, lol.
8:39 PM
Of course I do!!! I meant it anyway!
3:06 AM
lots of opinions here. don't do it...you're worth more than that...it never works out. well, who needs it to work out? do you want this person to be your boyfriend? and anyone who lets their love and/or sex life determine their worth is just sad. only you can make this decision. it is simply something that works for some people and not others.
i recently ended a FWB situation with an ex. i didn't have a great deal of distance before we started sleeping together again, so i got attached and we had to put a stop to it.
moral of the story: someone can only use you if you let them. if you're using each other, and both of you agree that those are the terms, then you should be fine. hell, you can probably even drop the "friends" pretense and just enjoy the benefits. good luck.
10:53 AM
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